Name:   Lifer - Subject:   Food for thought Date:   1/25/2018 7:24:03 PM (updated 1/25/2018 7:49:52 PM)

I have to disagree with one point MM. Post adoption can be traumatic as well and in many cases leads to psychological issues. I can provide cogent arguments for this point, however it is too involved to type here. I will gladly discuss the issue in person any time you wish. A lot of research has been done on the topic. There is also a growing industry of folks that are devoted to reuniting parents with offspring they gave up. In many cases adoption is a very rewarding experience, but some end with tragic consequences. True that many that suffer ill effects already suffered from underlying psych issues, but to say adoption doesn't require aftercare is just not accurate.

I am not being argumentative here, just pointing out what I consider, and facts back it up, to be in accurate. I think when you consider your statement and my response you will most likely agree with me. If not, no harm, no foul. We will just agree to disagree.

I want to update with one fact that I am almost certain, you nor any other forum member is aware of. There is a known phenomenon with with parents and adoptees that meet as adults. It is more common thane what is easy to wrap your mind around but a fact non the less. In some instances there is an irresistible sexual attraction between them when they meet as adults, and in many cases is acted upon. It more common between mother/son than father/daughter. I can't cite the source because I read the paper back in the 90's.i am sure there is more recent research than that on the subject. I read it after the subject came up in conversation with a group of freinds/colleagues. One of the ladies present was advocate/Activist in the adoption community. I haven't thought about it in years but now am curious again. With the cottage industry of reuniting more adoptees with their biological parents I am sure it must be even more prevalent now. Of course this leads to a whole new set of psychological effects on both, especially when it is acted upon.

Still think there are no psychological affects of adoption?